The Narcissism Epidemic, by Jean M. Twenge, Ph.D. and W. Keith Campbell, Ph.D.

Overview of Book

The Diagnosis of Narcissism: We have confused narcissism and self-esteem Those with high self-esteem value relationships with others Narcissists only value themselves, not others American culture is becoming more focused on self-admiration Narcissism is counter to success: Narcissists cannot take criticism or learn from mistakes They lack motivation to improve because they believe they are already on top They are over-confident, therefore there is no need to prepare Narcissists do better at individual activities than group activities

The Causes of Narcissism: Parenting Media and the idea of celebrity The Internet –  Facebook and Blogs Having your own blog, Facebook page etc. reinforces narcissism On Facebook, individual can redesign and promote themselves Addictive Can post private thoughts and moments Internet’s reach is wide ranging Easy credit – I deserve the best

The Symptoms of Narcissism Vanity Attractive physical appearance promoted by media and television Materialism Uniqueness Trend toward unique names for children Antisocial Behavior Fights broadcast on You Tube Mass killings considered way to achieve fame Poor manners many times are the norm – feel no need to be nice to others Disregard for grammar and spelling         Relationship Troubles Entitlement Other people’s needs are not as important as yours Religion and Volunteering Religion - change in focus Volunteering - mandatory in many high schools, improve college application, "I want to make a difference."

The Treatment of Narcissism: Parenting – Say no Don’t give children too much power over family decisions Examine messages about competition – let kids fail sometimes Don’t buy clothing and other items that announce how great your child is Teach child empathy and compassion Media and the quest for celebrity Screen shows and don’t allow those that promote narcissism Anti-social behavior Do not “reward” antisocial behavior with attention via the media Recognize honor and integrity Consciously  work on qualities of humility, mindfulness, compassion and connectedness Change core values

For discussion:

1. Do you agree with the authors’ assessment of narcissism as a disease in America?
1. What is the difference between narcissism and positive self-esteem?

2. Do you think Mr. Rogers promoted narcissism with the idea that “You are special?
1. How does this relate to the statement by Margaret Mead, "Always remember that you are absolutely unique.  Just like everyone else."

3. What television shows currently promote the “disease” of narcissism?
1. What examples of well-rounded, emotionally positive people are there in the media?

4. How have the media and television promoted the idea that we all should look young, beautiful and perfect?
1. How does this relate to the trend in obituary photographs that show the deceased as a much younger person?

5. What examples have you encountered of narcissistic behavior?

6. Discuss religion’s and volunteerism’s role in narcissism, both the symptoms and treatment.

7. Is there a way that we all are narcissistic?

8. In the last chapter the author’s recommend that we change America’s core values.  What do you think are our current core values?  Should they be changed?  How could this be accomplished?